SPECIALTIES
Depth-oriented psychotherapy for individuals and couples navigating the pressures of work, relationships, and change. Online throughout California.
ACHIEVEMENT, ANXIETY & IDENTITY
What might bring you in
You might be dealing with anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, or a change that’s made it harder to keep doing things the way you always have.
What shaped you
We can look closely at how family, culture, and early relationships shaped what you expect of yourself. Getting it right or keeping the peace may have helped you get through something important.
What still feels like a choice?
Some of those habits may still serve you. Others may keep you in patterns you’d like to change. We can make room to notice when you’re choosing a response and when it feels like the only one available.
RELATIONSHIPS & PARTNERSHIPS
The conflict is rarely just about the conflict.
I work with couples and co-founders who keep getting stuck in the same conversations. We’ll look at what happens between you when one of you feels hurt, unheard, or unsure how to ask for closeness.
How do we ask for closeness?
Sometimes a bid for connection comes out as criticism. Sometimes taking space feels like being left alone. We can slow those moments down and make room for what each of you was trying to say.
What do we want our relationship to make possible?
We can talk about what you each want from the relationship and what would help you stay in conversation when you want different things.
You replay a decision after everyone else has moved on, or spend your downtime thinking about what you should be doing. We can look at how anxiety and perfectionism shape what you expect from yourself, even when things are going well.
You may still be getting things done, but there’s less of you left at the end of the day. Burnout, a career change, or a setback can bring up questions about who you are when work feels different.
With a partner or co-founder, you might find yourself explaining harder, going quiet, or trying to fix things before you’ve felt heard. We can slow down a familiar moment and see what each of you is trying to protect or ask for.
You may feel like a different person at work, with family, or in a different language. Moving between cultures, becoming a parent, or another life transition can bring old family expectations or experiences of trauma back into view.
A FIRST CONVERSATION
We can start with one moment that keeps repeating, at work or in a relationship, and talk about what you’d like to understand differently.