Depth-oriented therapy for anxiety, burnout & high achievers

Depth-oriented therapy for anxiety, burnout & high achievers

You know the
pattern.  So why
does it keep
repeating?

You know the
pattern.  So why
does it keep
repeating?

You know the
pattern.  So why
does it keep
repeating?

The patterns that made you successful can also be the ones keeping you stuck. Therapy isn’t about dismantling your drive. It’s about understanding it, so you choose it instead of being run by it.

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A first conversation,

not a commitment.

A first conversation,

not a commitment.

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Direct, collaborative therapy for what keeps repeating.

A space to think

A space to think

SAN FRANCISCO · CALIFORNIA

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A LITTLE MORE ROOM TO UNDERSTAND

01 / THE CENTER OF THE WORK

We can understand the old
pattern without making it the
whole story.

We can understand the old
pattern without making it the
whole story.

We can understand the old
pattern without making it the
whole story.

Therapy with me is active and direct. We trace how the pattern formed and what it has protected you from, notice it as it shows up in your work, your relationships, and in the room with me, and try something different, with support. It isn’t a project to optimize yourself. It’s a place to see what your ways of coping have made possible, what they cost you now, and what opens up when you’re met with care instead of judgment.

02 / WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER

Start with what's here.

Start with what's here.

Start with what's here.

01

Individual therapy

A steady place to understand your patterns, choices, and sense of self.

02

Couples therapy

When familiar conversations lead to familiar distance. A place to see what’s happening between you, beyond who is right or wrong.

03

Co-founder therapy

A facilitated space for the human relationship behind the work.

03 / WHAT WE CAN EXPLORE

The patterns that ask for our attention.

The patterns that ask for our attention.

The patterns that ask for our attention.

Anxiety

Listening to what lives beneath vigilance and worry.

Burnout

When the drive that carried you here starts costing more than it gives.

Perfectionism & imposter syndrome

When enough never quite feels like enough.

Relationship patterns

Understanding what repeats in closeness and conflict.

Identity & culture

Who you are beyond what family, culture, and work expect of you.

Life transitions

Finding your footing when a role, a team, or a chapter ends.

04 / HOW I WORK

Different lenses. One shared inquiry.

Different lenses. One shared inquiry.

Different lenses. One shared inquiry.

My approach is active, depth-oriented, and direct. We look beyond symptoms to the patterns that keep repeating.

I draw on several traditions, through a relational, attachment-informed lens, to help us stay curious about the full picture: what came before, what you feel now, and what meaning you’re making.

TOGETHER

Therapy asks for honesty, curiosity, and a willingness to stay with difficult questions. I bring directness and care. You remain the expert on your own experience, and we decide together what’s useful.

If it supports your goals, we can consider EMDR together. It’s never a default or a shortcut. We first build a shared understanding of what you need and whether this approach makes sense for you.

Who you are beneath what you’ve built.

Who you are beneath what you’ve built.

FROM THE INSIDE, NOT FROM A DISTANCE

05 / A LITTLE ABOUT ME

I know the pressure to
keep building.

I know the pressure to
keep building.

I know the pressure to
keep building.

I was a PM, founder, and VC before becoming a therapist. Now I help high-achieving individuals understand how early relationships, inherited expectations, and the drive to achieve have shaped who they are and who they want to become.

06 / ENDORSEMENTS

“High-achievers in tech need a therapist who can balance deep emotional empathy with logical, practical objectivity. Phoebe is warm, disarmingly funny, and sharply focused on real-world results.”

“High-achievers in tech need a therapist who can balance deep emotional empathy with logical, practical objectivity. Phoebe is warm, disarmingly funny, and sharply focused on real-world results.”

“High-achievers in tech need a therapist who can balance deep emotional empathy with logical, practical objectivity. Phoebe is warm, disarmingly funny, and sharply focused on real-world results.”

— Patrizia Nader · via Psychology Today

“Phoebe understands the stresses and demands of high-paced workplace environments, and how they can affect you and your relationships. Specialising in Chinese diaspora professionals and other international people, she’s an excellent therapist.”

“Phoebe understands the stresses and demands of high-paced workplace environments, and how they can affect you and your relationships. Specialising in Chinese diaspora professionals and other international people, she’s an excellent therapist.”

“Phoebe understands the stresses and demands of high-paced workplace environments, and how they can affect you and your relationships. Specialising in Chinese diaspora professionals and other international people, she’s an excellent therapist.”

— Dr Rachael Vaughan, clinical supervisor · via Psychology Today

A FIRST CONVERSATION

Curiosity is a good place
to begin.

Curiosity is a good place
to begin.

Curiosity is a good place
to begin.

We can talk about what brings you here, how I work, and whether it feels like a fit. A free 15-minute consultation is just a conversation.

Phoebe Hao, AMFT

Depth psychotherapy for high achievers. Throughout California.

Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist # 154327 · Supervised by Rachael Vaughan, LMFT # 50730

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